Things I'll Never Understand: #1 - Cheating

There are some things in life I’ll just never understand. Violence, for example. If things get heated, why can’t you just talk it out, then calm down with a DVD & a cup of tea? Maybe throw in a few biscuits if you’re feeling particularly het up. There’s no need for punches to be thrown around. That shit just gets messy.

Another thing I’ll never understand is pet names. In my past relationships, never have I felt the need to use or be called pet names. Maybe I’m just cynical, but “baby”, “sweetheart”, “honey” and a whole manner of ridiculous names do not appeal to me in the slightest. Yes, I’m from Essex, so I’ve inevitably been brought up with the use of “babe” throughout my school life, but I still only use it in jest, not to any male partners as a serious nickname. 

There’s a whole manner of things that I’ll never understand, and hey, maybe I’ll make a series out of it, but one at the top of my list is cheating.

Why anybody in a relationship would want to cheat on their other half is a complete mystery to me. If things aren’t going well in the relationship, end it. Walk away. Why would you instead, make things even more complicated, by involving somebody else? That 1) makes you a complete bastard, and 2) also has the potential to break the heart of the person you once cared about.

I’ve been lucky enough to have never been cheated on. In fact, all of my past relationships have ended on good terms. However, if any of them had cheated, that would have completely destroyed me. To think that the person you care about, the person you’ve shared a huge part of your life with, could just completely disregard all of that history, all of those feelings, and sleep with someone else… I can only imagine how someone must feel in that situation.

Another thing I don’t get is why anybody would want to be a part of something like that. Some people accept that the person pursuing them is taken, yet they choose to ignore that and go along with it anyway? No way. I was once approached by a guy in a club at uni, who I knew for a fact had a girlfriend back home. I could have easily ignored that, and gone back with him anyway, but for me, the thought of being a part of that makes me feel a bit sick. Just imagining how that poor girl would feel when she found out, the guilt would be way too much for me to handle.

I understand that feelings change. Sometimes it can’t be helped. Sometimes you’ll be in one relationship, and then someone else comes along, completely unexpectedly, and you end up falling for them a little. If that was ever the case, I would never string along a guy, allowing him to think that everything was perfectly okay, for him to then find out that I’d cheated on him. If I ever had feelings for another guy, I would end my current relationship way before pursuing anything with him.

I know people who have cheated, and been cheated on, and a common excuse would be “it was a mistake”. Yes, alcohol is one of the main culprits behind moments like this, but still, even if I was completely intoxicated, I’d like to think that my morals would take over before I’d ever have the chance to do anything like that. Or maybe I’m just too headstrong.

For me at least, I never see cheating as an option. I would never think it was okay. If you’re not happy, end it, then enjoy being single, do whatever you please, but never break somebody’s heart by sharing yours with someone else. Besides, you'd then be labelled with the old "once a cheater, always a cheater". 

I’d love to hear your opinions on this, do you ever think cheating is okay? And also let me know if you’d want to see this “Things I’ll Never Understand” as a series!