Second Chances.

I’m a firm believer that everybody deserves a second chance. Some people may disagree with that. In fact, I know a lot of people disagree. But the way I see it, is everybody makes mistakes. If they can correct those mistakes and prove themselves worthy, why not give them another chance? If they’ve learnt their lesson, surely you can forgive them?

I personally don’t see what the big issue is. Why people make it out to be so much different to give a guy (or girl) a second chance, in comparison to a friend. For example, if I had an argument with a friend, or they did something that upset me, everyone would tell me to forgive them and to give them another chance to prove that they’re a good friend. But when it’s, oh, I don’t know, an ex boyfriend… the matter changes completely.

Sure, there are exceptions. For example, if a guy cheated on me, I’d like to say I’d have the courage and willpower to not take him back. But then again, I can’t really comment on that issue, as it’s never actually happened to me. Although saying that, a friend of mine was put in a milder form of this situation, forgave him, and they’re one of the happiest couples I know. Everybody’s different.

For me, second chances are a way for people to prove that they still deserve a place in your life. I completely believe that they can work, and can make couples and friendships even stronger than before. With second chances, it allows both parties to correct anything that was wrong with the relationship in the first place, giving the opportunity for a better one to work out. 

Second chances aren’t always a bad thing. It’s third, fourth and fifth chances that I have no interest in. If you can’t correct your mistakes after the second chance, you sure as hell don’t deserve anymore.

Have any of you been in a situation where you’ve given someone a second chance? Did it work? Or if you haven’t, do you agree with them?

Changes

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been overcome with changes that have occurred in various aspects of my life. Although my work-load for uni hasn’t gone up by that much, my determination to complete my assignments to a high standard has. Last year, I didn’t really care that much about my work, purely because I knew I only needed 40% to pass the year, and whatever mark I did get didn’t actually count towards my final grade. Whereas now, I’m fully aware that whatever mark I get this year, will count as 40% of my overall degree. Now that’s scary. I’ve been a lot more motivated to complete my work to a high quality.

I’ve also been getting used to not living on campus. I moved into a lovely house with 5 amazing girls, about a 15-20 minute walk from campus. Although the distance isn’t an issue in the slightest, I’ve been adjusting to waking up earlier to allow time to walk to my lectures. It’s also been strange to not live a minute away from everyone else! Last year, it was so simple to visit friends, because the furthest anyone lived from me was 5 minutes! Now, it’s a 35 minute walk to see most of my friends, which is harder, but it also means I’ve been making more of an effort to make plans to see them, whereas before, I took for granted that they lived so close to me.

Compared to last year, I’ve rarely felt the need or want to go out at night. Whereas last year, I was out in the pub or clubs about 2-3 times a week, I’ve been perfectly happy to stay at home, having a film night with the girls, or going out for a meal  instead of spending the money on alcohol or taxi fares. Maybe it’s because the novelty of the fresher’s madness has worn off, and it’s a lot more effort to go out, rather than having everything available on campus. Whatever the case, I’ve found myself saving a lot more money!

The last change that’s affected me over the last few weeks, has been the return of a certain man in my life. Although I had no intention of anything like this happening, sometimes second chances aren’t the worst thing in the world, despite what other people might think. I’m not yet “in a relationship”, but this has been a huge change for me, considering how things have been for the last few months. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone who you know you can talk to when you need them, and someone who’s there to give a cuddle when you’re feeling like shit.

Has anything changed for you recently?  For the better or for worse?

Information Overload.

I was watching my daily dose of YouTube last night, when I came across this video by Carrie Hope Fletcher, which for some reason, made me realise how much I’ve been neglecting my blog lately!

I began my second year of university last week, and on top of that, have had a really hectic 3 weeks of drama and confusion which I shall leave for another post! To ease myself back into the swing of things, I thought I’d do Carrie’s new tag video, but in the form of a blog post! Cheating, I know, but never mind, ey!

1)   What are you wearing?

A men’s Marvel shirt & leggings!

2)    Ever been in love?

Twice, but they were both very different kinds of love.

3)    Ever had a terrible break up?

Not really, but the feelings afterwards were awful!

4)    How tall are you?

5”7

5)    How much do you weigh?

I’m not sure exactly, but I know I’m just about in the underweight bracket, unfortunaltely!

6)    Any tattoos?

Nope, but I hope to get one soon!

7)    Any piercings?

My ears and belly buton!

8)    OTP?

Zalfie!

9)    Favourite show?

Breaking Bad!

10) Favourite bands?

McFly, Bastille & The Vamps.

11) Something you miss?

How simple things were this time last year!

12) Favourite song?

The Heart Never Lies – McFly

13) How old are you?

Almost 20! :’(

14) Zodiac sign?

Sagittarius.

15) Quality you look for in a partner?

Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously.

16) Favourite quote?

“Take these broken wings and learn to fly” – The Beatles.

17) Favourite actor?

Surprisingly, for a film student, I don’t actually have a favourite actor!

18) Favourite colour?

Mint green.

19) Loud music or soft?

Soft.

20) Where do you go when you’re sad?

For a walk somewhere.

21) How long does it take you to shower?

10-15 minutes.

22) How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?

30 minutes.

23) Ever been in a physical fight?

No way!

24) Turn on?

When you can see how much you mean to someone else.

25) Turn off?

Selfishness.

26) The reason I joined YouTube (or in the case, started a blog!)

I wanted a place where I could vent about everything going on in my life.

27) Fears?

Birds and loneliness.

28) Last thing that made you cry?

Men.

29) Last time you said you loved someone?

Yesterday.

30) Meaning behing your YouTube/blog name?

I write down my confessions, and I’m from Essex!

31) Last book you read?

The Green Mile by Stephen King.

32) The book you’re currently reading?

The Shining by Stephen King!

33) Last show you watched?

The IT Crowd.

34) Last person you talked to?

My housemate, Kirstie!

35) The relationship between you and the last person you texted?

My best friend.

36) Favourite food?

Chinese takeaway.

37) Place you want to visit?

Paris & New York.

38) Last place you were?

My bedroom.

39) Do you have a crush?

Yes.

40) Last time you kissed someone?

Yesterday.

41) Last time you were insulted?

Jokingly, yesterday.

42) Favourite flavour of sweet?

Strawberry.

43) What instruments do you play?

Unfortunately, none!

44)  Favourite piece of jewellery?

A locket necklace my mum got for my 18^th birthday.

45) Last sport you played?

Rounders.

46) Last song you sang?

Can We Dance by The Vamps.

47) Favourite chat up line?

“I lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?”

48) Have you ever used it?

Of course not!

49) Last time you hung out with anyone?

Yesterday.

50) Who should answer these questions next?

Anyone who wants to!

Comment below with a link to your blog if you decide to do it! Hope you enjoyed!